Lesson learned…

This is one of those rare posts where I mostly talk about myself and what I’ve learned in recent weeks, I just needed the words to be graved somewhere because I very much believe that what’s written has less chances to be forgotten.

I once read on life of PI: “The lower you are, the higher your mind will want to soar.” 
— Yann Martel


It is definitely in our darkest moments that we get the time to take a look at the big picture. And mine wasn’t all that much pleasant.

I have made it my resolution this year to be more productive. As I enrolled in post-graduate studies, I resolved myself to make more efforts in my daily job and once back home, it was time to read/write or plan for extra-projects (Earth hour for instance)…

I can’t pretend I didn’t feel the Ecstasy of achievement nor the excitement of always having something new coming up. But slowly, and without me noticing, I’ve been trapped in a realm I had no control on. I was facing the day-to-day issues one after the other without any sense of direction or strategy. And at some point, my mind was whirling but my body refused to keep up… At first I truly felt angry that my body would fail me at this critical time of my life. And then, it sank in. I have been feeling since January, that every moment was critical and the weight of such a hectic lifestyle was going to crush me eventually…And it did.

Don’t get me wrong, but I’m glad it all happened. I had a chance to learn great lessons. And I’m here to share some of them with you, hoping they’d probably make you rework your life as I had the chance to:

1. Being productive and having fun can go along pretty well, if we make the effort to enjoy what we do. (A nice read about just that on Zen habit)
2. Taking time off is not a hindrance to what you want to achieve. It’s a stop you ought to make to be able to go on.
3. Have some alone time, stop, sit in silence for a little while, take a step back, rethink your life
4. Don’t take anything for granted. There is much truth in the saying: You don’t know what you have until it’s gone.
5. Stressing over things doesn’t get them done, does it? 
6. Give some things time, not everything needs to be resolved right away. 
7. Prioritize. “Put first things first, second things, not at all”
8. Get help when you need it. There is nothing to be ashamed of. An arab maxim states that two don’t learn: the shy and the arrogant.
 9. Let Go. Don’t overthink the past. The decisions you took won’t change because you regret them. Rather, learn your lessons and move on.
10. If you have issues, talk them over with someone. One thing that is true about pain is that its weight is divided when shared.

I can’t say I’m a different person now, change is a day-to-day process, it doesn’t happen overnight. But I’m glad I see things under a different light. By loosening my control over things, I’m more in control now… a paradox? Maybe, but who said life is all about logic?

Lamia Ben